Please Everyone Has A Price: You Can’t Find What You Are Looking For
Social desirability, the urge to show others the best version of ourselves is completely normal. For this reason, we “refine” our behavior on the basis of others without it becoming pathological. Wanting to show the best part of yourself to please others, however, has nothing to do with naturalness.
In this case, if we perceive that our presence has stopped pleasing someone, that our opinions are not appreciated, based on the feedback of the people who listen, we can feel very uncomfortable. No one is immune to the emotional damage that comes from the implicit or explicit rejection of others.
If we stop to reflect on this, we should ask ourselves a question: are we willing to allow a look of disapproval, the feeling of feeling out of place or the defensive attitude of others to transform us into masks, that is, into what we are not? It is time to decide whether it is worthwhile to have many good, cordial relationships or to maintain a few but meaningful ones.
Pleasant relationships need authenticity
If you are willing to become a hybrid of who you really are and what others expect of you, in all their range and variability, don’t expect too much from social relationships.
Being radical in your ways has bad consequences. The price of making everyone happy, not showing yourself for who you are, is not finding what you’re looking for and losing some of the relationships that really make you feel good.
Wearing a mask whenever you are in front of someone who may have different opinions from yours is a double-edged sword. Perhaps it allows you to avoid a certain feeling of discomfort, but at the same time it also allows you to avoid some of the wealth that you could derive from that relationship.
Many people make the mistake of taking personal opinions other than their own about something foreign to them. Certainly no one should feel offended by a judgment other than their own. If this were indeed the case, many would not have the need to disguise or mask opinions or to divert conversation into less awkward terrain. In other words, it could be a real sincere dialogue and not an artificial exchange of words.
