Blood Makes Us Relatives, But Loyalty Transforms Us Into Family
Everyone has a family. It’s easy to have one: we all have origins and roots. However, the difficult thing is to keep it and know how to build it, to feed the bond every day to ensure that it remains intact.
We all have mothers, fathers, brothers, uncles… sometimes large kinships with members with whom we have probably stopped having relationships. Do we have to feel guilty about it?
The truth is that sometimes we almost feel a moral obligation to get along with that cousin or uncle with whom we share so little interest and who have done us so many wrongs in life. There may be a bond of blood, but life does not force us to get along with everyone, so sometimes moving away or maintaining a bond of “circumstance” does not have to cause any trauma.
What happens when we talk about the family in the strictest sense? Of fathers and brothers?
Bonds are stronger than blood
Sometimes we tend to think that being a family involves sharing more than blood or family tree. There are people who almost unconsciously believe that a child must have the same values as their father, share the same ideas and behave in a similar way.
We must be clear that our personality is not 100% genetically transmitted, some characteristics can be inherited and, certainly, sharing an environment also leads to sharing a series of dimensions. However, children are not copies of their parents, nor will they ever be able to make their children live up to their expectations.
The personality is dynamic, it builds itself day after day and does not stop at the barriers that parents sometimes try to raise. From this sometimes disillusionments, disagreements, clashes arise …
Key points of families living harmoniously
Sometimes many parents see their children leave home without wanting to establish contact again. There are brothers who stop talking to each other and families who count the empty chairs left in the house.
What is all this due to? It is clear that each family is a world apart, with its guidelines, its beliefs and, sometimes, with closed windows, where only the people who are part of it know what happened in the past and how to live. the present..
However, we can speak of a general basic axis that can make us reflect.
– Education aims to give the world people who are self-confident, capable and independent, who can achieve happiness and who know how to offer it to others. How is this achieved? By offering sincere love, which does not impose itself and does not control itself. An affection that does not punish for how a person is, thinks or acts.
– We don’t always have to blame others for what happens. You can’t blame a mother or father for feeling incapable of doing certain things, or that brother who, perhaps, has always been treated better than us.
– At times, we feel the moral obligation of having to continue to keep in touch with those family members who have hurt us, who make us feel uncomfortable, who continually judge us.
They are our family, it is true, but we must take into account that the really important thing in this life is happiness and the achievement of an inner balance. Inner peace. If that or those family members violate your rights, distance yourself from me!
Image courtesy of: Karen Jones Lee
