9 Habits To Keep Love From Disappearing

Anna is no longer happy with him. Everything that made her fall in love seems to have vanished into thin air, like a smoke screen. She feels alone, abandoned… He no longer sends her messages from work where he says “I’m thinking of you” and doesn’t give her a kiss when he comes back. Anna wonders: “ What happened to our love? Is there any way to save him? “

Anna no longer has faith in him and feels that there is no longer anything that unites them. There are no more kisses or caresses, they hardly speak, they no longer tell each other things. Those little daily gestures that united them and made them feel so special. Habit, time and the thought that there is nothing left to conquer is ruining her relationship with Pietro.

Not even Pietro is happy … When he comes back from work he feels as lonely as she is. Pietro and Anna have different working hours and Pietro often has lunch or dinner without the company of that complicit smile so beautiful that he still remembers, as he swallows the last bite before going to sleep. To sleep alone … because Anna works the night shift.

This made-up story we just told you could be the story of one of the thousands of couples who aren’t having the best time in their relationship. In similar situations, all that remains is to say “it’s over”? Is there a solution to save the couple?

Love is the greatest mystery and the most compelling adventure that each of us experiences in a unique and special way. In love there are no recipes or magic formulas, neither to give birth nor to preserve it … But perhaps love is like a small plant that must be watered every day or like a flame that sometimes burns imposingly and other times it is small and weak, but which nevertheless never goes out.

It is true that magic formulas in love do not exist. But perhaps applying emotional intelligence to love can help us. For this reason, today we want to talk to you about an interesting article published in the journal Psychology Today by psychiatrist and consultant Mark Goulston. This writer is also the author of the book The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship: How to Fall in Love Again – and Stay There, in which he lists 9 typical habits of happy couples. . Maybe it’s not magic, but simply emotional intelligence …

Here is the interesting list of 9 habits found in all happy couples according to Dr. Goulston:

1. Having common interests. Doing things together unites, but doing them individually can make us appear more interesting in the eyes of the partner. In addition, it prevents dependence on each other.

2. Trust in each other and forgiveness. Holding a grudge and not forgiving destroys relationships. After an argument, when things have calmed down, talking, forgiving and trusting again is the best thing that can be done for the good of the couple.

3. Walk together, side by side or hand in hand. Walking together is a way of feeling that you have a common destiny, of synchronizing your steps from time to time.

4. Go to sleep at the same time. At the beginning of the relationship, the couple gets used to going to sleep at the same time, to establish intimacy. They are moments of passion that protect from the erosion of time. However, when the couple has been together for a while, everyone chooses their own time… maybe it’s the fault of trust. This quenches the desire, while intimate contact, both physical and mental, in the bedroom is important.

5. Say good morning and I love you when the day starts. There is no better way to start the day and deal with the daily grind and stress of work and daily worries.

6. Say goodnight before bed, even if you are angry. It’s a way of letting your partner understand that even if it wasn’t the best day, you still love each other.

7. Call or text during the day. It is a good way to show empathy in the couple. Knowing how each other’s day is going is useful for knowing how to behave once back home.

8. Be proud to appear in public as a couple. They hold hands, put one arm around the waist or behind the other, the important thing is that they want to make their love public, that they are proud to be a couple.

9. Focus on the positive aspects of the relationship. We all have positives and negatives. It is therefore always better to focus on the positive aspects of the couple and not on the negative ones. Negative things only give negativity.

What will you add to your list? If the two elements of the couple love each other, the solution almost always exists.